Friends in new places

April 29, 2008 at 9:51 am 1 comment

     It is amazing how your circle of friends change when you have kids. You find yourself bonding with people you might never have known if it weren’t for your kids’ connection to them. Having a child who is “special” has brought me all kinds of friends I might have never met otherwise. Friends who have become integral parts of our lives simply because of our shared experiences, even if they aren’t the same experiences. These are the kinds of friends you don’t have to explain anything to if your child has a 2 hour temper tantrum at their house or can’t eat anything in their kitchen because he’s allergic to everything. These are the best kinds of friends, even if the only thing you have in common is your kids.

     For a long time I completely surrounded myself with these friends in a protective cocoon. I couldn’t be around people whose kids were developing “typically” because their lives were so different than ours, and it hurt. We were so worried about our child and had no idea what was happening with him. It seemed like the whole world of parents I used to know took everything their child did for granted while we were teaching C how to swallow food. Not true, I know, but it felt that way.

     Even though I have made it back to the world where one has friends simply for friendship’s sake, those somehow connected to the world of special needs remain the best. There’s just something about being around people who have an understanding of what is happening in your family that is both empowering and relaxing at the same time. Autism can at times make for strange bedfellows, but I’m thankful it has brought us some dear friends.

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  • 1. acollage  |  May 1, 2008 at 2:00 am

    So true! When your child shows signs of behavioral issues, and/or is later diagnosed with autism, you find out who your real friends are. Often, people you thought were friends don’t know what to do, so they stop trying..but you find new people to replace them and usually end up better off. Tough road though! We’ve been there, done that, and it’s still hard sometimes to go out in public, and birthday parties are the worst, but having that support network makes it much easier. Great blog!

    Oh, I know – birthday parties are my LEAST FAVORITE thing in the world. Although, I admit, C had a great time at his OWN party. 😉 I do love my friends that I have now. It took awhile, however, as you know!


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