War….what is it good for?

December 22, 2008 at 8:50 pm 9 comments

     C’s new obsession is guns and war. He discovered both this year with his very patriotic teacher who has talked about the war a few times. Yet his interest is not in the traditional “I want a toy gun” vein, but rather the “Guns scare the poop out of me” way. He wants to know all about wars and guns, and fear is behind the questions. We try to answer them, because we know in the greater picture of this obsession, he’s trying to sort out bad guys and good guys and all of that. He’s finally decided that perhaps Nerf guns might be acceptable after repeated assurances that they won’t kill anyone, but he was worried about the glue gun I used on a recent craft project. “Does it shoot bullets?” he asked. No, but the burns I suffered are apparently okay by him. As long as it doesn’t shoot anything.

     Once C found out Husband used to be a park ranger/law enforcement officer, it about sent him over the edge and took us with him after the zillion questions he asked. “What are bullets made of” “Do guns weigh a lot?” “I never want to touch a gun. Do I have to someday?” “Is every person that has a gun  mean?” “If you have a gun, do you have to go to war?” “Why do police officers carry guns?” All good questions, and ones I felt I had to answer as calmly and succinctly as possible so as not to arouse additional stress, concern, worry or obsession.

     We see, however, the obsession spilling over into fear. Everything that is scary now involves a gun. He wants to know which movies, video games and TV shows have guns. There’s a surprising amount of violence in even seemingly benign Disney movies (Ratatouille caused the latest “run screaming from the room” incident), and I believe he may never truly outgrow this fear. I don’t really care if he never gets past Thomas the Train movies and into Batman, but I suspect he’ll take some heat from the boys on it eventually.

     So when he screamed for me last night, at 2:15 in a particularly frantic voice, I figured it had something to do with guns. He’s had a bad dream, he said, and could only tell me there was a gun in it. I asked him if it was a purple dream, had polka dots in it, or if a giraffe was walking through the dream, and that seemed to calm him down. But I knew that wasn’t the end of it, and sure enough today, in the middle of his daily barrage of questions about guns, he used his power of logic to solve the problem. “I know,” he said. “when I’m grown up, I’ll just make them all cost so much that no one can buy them.”

     Best idea I’ve heard all year.

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9 Comments Add your own

  • 1. Cale  |  December 22, 2008 at 9:09 pm

    Chris Rock outlined a similar idea in his stand-up. But he wants to make guns cheap and bullets expensive. That way people really have to consider whether the price is worth it before they fire each one, and will hopefully thus decide not to fire any.

  • 2. robinaltman  |  December 22, 2008 at 9:12 pm

    I hope C becomes a politician! Kevin was deathly afraid of Disney’s Sleeping Beauty for many years. He’d run screaming from the room when the bad fairy hypnotized her. How’s that for manly?

  • 3. therocchronicles  |  December 22, 2008 at 9:46 pm

    Wow-what a great answer from C!! Love that he was able to come up with something amidst that understandable fear!

  • 4. Casdok  |  December 23, 2008 at 3:35 am

    Great thinking!!

    Merry christmas!

  • 5. mama mara  |  December 23, 2008 at 4:46 am

    C for President, 2036! I like this gun idea almost as much as his pitch for “smencils” when he ran for student council!

  • 6. embracingspirit  |  December 23, 2008 at 5:34 am

    LOVE the idea!

  • 7. FXSmom  |  December 23, 2008 at 8:59 am

    He is such a smart kid…that is a wonderful idea 🙂

  • 8. hopeauthority  |  December 26, 2008 at 10:39 am

    That kid of yours is going to make the world a better place for everyone someday.

    If the fear continues, maybe you can tell him that Obama has lots of great plans and maybe he’ll even enact ‘C’s plan soon?

  • 9. goodmum  |  January 1, 2009 at 10:25 pm

    OHMIGOSH!!! Little Man just asked me today, “What does warfare mean, Mommy?” Yikes.

    And yes, I think C’s idea is an awesome one!


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